14 Feb Holidays and Child Custody
You are in the midst of a contentious custody battle and you are dreading the upcoming holiday. Rather than talk about it with your spouse who is giving you the silent treatment, you opt to ignore the looming problem and decide instead to see how it goes. The holiday comes and you cannot come to an agreement with your spouse. You scream at each other in front of the kids that you both want the full day with them. You try to tell the kids that they will have the most fun during the holiday with you. This is detrimental both to your children and to your parenting relationship. So how should you behave?
- Think in Advance: Unlike the hypothetical outlined above, family members will be stressed if they leave everything until the last minute. In order to help make pick-ups and drop-offs more efficient, you should communicate with your spouse ahead of time regarding the schedule so you are both on the same page as to where the kids will be and at what time.
- Do Not Compete With Your Spouse: Courts frown upon any action that can be seen as a parent alienating the children from the other parent. This includes when a parent blames the other parent as being the reason why they cannot stick to traditions.
- Try to Stay Flexible: With family members frequently around and many things on the to-do lists, unexpected things frequently arise over the holidays. Perhaps your spouse’s relative is running late and wants to be able to see your kids and give them presents during your scheduled parenting time. The most important thing to remember in these situations is to put your children’s interests first.
- Do Not Force Your Children Between You: It is a bad idea for parents to speak poorly of their spouse for several reasons. First, as mentioned above, courts look down on any action where a spouse alienates the other by speaking poorly about them in front of the children. But more importantly, speaking poorly about your spouse may ultimately lead to your children feeling guilty about the divorce or disliking your spouse.
- Do Not Blame Changes in Holiday Traditions on the Divorce: Often parents are tempted to say any shifts in the holiday routine are because of the divorce. This adds a stigma to the divorce and gives children the idea that other normal routine things will change all because of the divorce.
- Create New Family Traditions: Instead of focusing on the holiday traditions you are “losing” in the divorce, you should think about coming up with new traditions with your children to help them look forward to moving on.
Contact an Experienced Mount Pleasant, SC Custody Attorney Today
Holidays are typically hectic enough without having to worry about the impact of your divorce. To help minimize the stress of the season and negotiate a holiday schedule that works best for your entire family, you should contact the experienced Mount Pleasant custody attorneys at Klok Law Firm LLC.
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